marrying ur cousin?? good idea or bad idea??

[daisy]

do u think that it is right to get married to ur cousin??

il probably say that its wrong with the first cousin, but not with the second or third etc

i know its allowed in all the religion apart from hindusium, so could someone update me here to why a person is allowed to get married to there cousin despite knowin that u have the same blood runnin, that can cause the upcomin child to have some problems in that child body system?

or let me know to why it isnt allowed, even tho you have the different genetic material to the opposed person?

i would really appreciate it, coz i kinda have a thing for my cuz, but he calls me sister, and everyone knows that, i dnt like that, coz he's behaviour is more like a husband which i dnt fink he knows that, but ppl have been talkin about how close we are, and they tryin to seperate us, coz the outside ppl even think were husband and wife, he would cook me even tho he cant, and then feed me with his own hand in seperate room, and if i dnt eat a day, he wont, if i get upset, then he will get upset coz he feels hurt.. i never seen a brother doin that, an i would find it disgutin if i did.. altho i do have a bf, i dnt know why i cant stop thinkin about him, were on the fones all day, even on the net, he doesnt want his parents to know that i cht to him, and he doesnt want my mum to know, and vice versa.. i dnt know what in his head, but he always call me behen ji even tho his older then me

now back to the topic, what do u think of gettin married to ur cousin
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[daisy]

i found a link sayin this:

'A person can not marry upto his second cousin from the mother's side and upto his fourth cousin from the side of the father. It is also necessary the parties should not be apindas of each other from either side. '

now this person whom am on about his my second cousin from ma mum, and from his side, amd his cousin from the dad's side.. am confused.. need help.. feelin restless ere :(

amrita where are u.. lol

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[aalka*]

its is sweet what he is doing. i am close like that to my bro, who is older than me. i am 21 and he is 24, and even tho we live 2 hours drive, we always talk on the phone and txt each other, and when i don't eat he drives up, and feeds me. so i don't think he likes he like that. we share everything, and our parents know it and they don't think of it. So for our family when me and my cousin are together its normal and we share a bro and sis relationship. so really think about it hard before you mention anything about marriage, because he might not feel the same way, and you could lost everything with him.

when it comes to marrying him, because they are like our bro they are meant to protect us, and look out for us (meaning of rakhi). thats why we don't marry our bro.

[daisy]

but thats the thing, i am the only gal in my family, and to come to think of it, i never seen a brother of mine that would do that for me, i try rakhi on to my brothers every year, but not even, have i ever seen them behave like tht, an i hope not, id probably freak out.. but the thing, his got a sister in the house, and his never like that with his sister or any other cousin, its only me that i see him doin this, he once went on hunger strike secertly without me knowin, just because i was rufsin to eat food for few days, i found out about this, when a little gal from neighbour told me that sum1 was vomittin, and then i had to eat.. i dnt knw.. its probably have never been cared for so much.. but my mum is the one hu is puttin things into my head by sayin, dnt get to close to him, its not right, his ur cousin etc, she wont allow me to touch him, when i do that to my real bro, am confused.. i just wanna know that if ur allow to marry ur cousin. i knw the south india of india, allows you, but the north india doesnt, and from the north that has strict morals :(
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[DreamzUnlimited]

I am not sure what to say. I am going to watch out for this post :)

[daisy]

^^^dnt tell me that ur in that situation, coz it aint nice, i dnt wanna break the relations that i have with there family etc sniff sniff

ppl where are u.. the forum is goin borin and borin day by day lol.. have noticed, that not that many ppl come here no more, it was so much better few years back, it was like thrill to come on this forum to see the latest dramas lol
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[SURTIGAL]

my sisters married my cousin bro they very happy have kids too its no prob to get married to ur cousin

[daisy]

^^^ am just curious to why ur allowed to get married to ur cousins, coz its been sed that by marrying ur cousins, there are higher chances that the offspring will develop some sort of genetic disorder, if both have a carrier in there recessive allele.. so thats the reason why its best to marry out of the relation circle, as there are less chances of bein a carrier in the family
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[Devdasi]

hmmm frm the sound of it... he also feels sumthin 4u...
but like u... hez probly confused n scared 2 admit it...
Itz true tht if u marry ur cousin the offspring could develop
a genetic disoder but isnt tht only the case if u marry ur first cousin...

Mayb... instead of admitting ur feelings 2 him... u cud ask him if he
really sees u as a sis n tell him 2 tell u honestly... thn u could decide
whut 2 do next based on whut he said... if he says he does only see u as a sis
thn therez no point teling him u have feelings 4 him...

[SURTIGAL]

my mother nd my dads both dads are brothers my 2 grandads are brothers ders nothing wrong wid it its allowed in muslim religon

[daisy]

devdasi: i tried to give him hints in mnay ways, by tellin him that dnt call me sis coz u aint my real bro, only a fake one, but you are a real cousin etc.. an by accident i sed to him that il be ur life partner lol, coz his parents are tryin get him hitched off, and i dint want that, and then he didnt yell at me or anythin, he just says that its forbideen in our religion and that god will get angry with some sort of embarrassment face, and thn i had to make him realise by sayin tht you dopey idiot, life partner doesnt mean wife and husbnd, you can have friends doin that lol, and he sed oh right i get u, by didnt make a big deal coz he fort that i made a mistake in talkin in his language coz i cant speak my language, its like how an enlgish psn wud speak in an asian language, thats how bad mine is.. at first he would call me sis, but now a days he started usin my name, wohoo lol.. i dnt know am confused

surtigal: its nice to know that ur family are related, i just hope that sumfin like that could happen in ours, unfortunetly i do disagree with first cuz but 2nd, 3rd etc.. its nice to know things like that could happen, but why dnt ppl understand that, sighs
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[Devdasi]

devdasi: i tried to give him hints in many ways, by tellin him that dnt call me sis coz u aint my real bro, only a fake one, but you are a real cousin etc.. an by accident i sed to him that il be ur life partner lol, coz his parents are tryin get him hitched off, and i dint want that, and then he didnt yell at me or anythin, he just says that its forbideen in our religion and that god will get angry with some sort of embarrassment face, and thn i had to make him realise by sayin tht you dopey idiot, life partner doesnt mean wife and husbnd, you can have friends doin that lol, and he sed oh right i get u, by didnt make a big deal coz he fort that i made a mistake in talkin in his language coz i cant speak my language, its like how an enlgish psn wud speak in an asian language, thats how bad mine is.. at first he would call me sis, but now a days he started usin my name, wohoo lol.. i dnt know am confused
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hmmm i see whut ur sayin... n therez 2 ways u cud go frm here...
First: Speak to him neway. even tho u've given him hints... at the end of the day
hez a guy... lol n sum tyms they need 2 hav it spelled out 2 them... cause therez
no definite until he admits his feelings 4u... cause now its only ur guess... whut u think he feels...
it'll b gud 2 have it out in the open n thn u can both decide whut u wana do...

Second: not say nething n control ur feelings n try 2 dissolve them by perhaps
as ur mum suggests keep ur distance frm him etc... cause at the end of the day
(even tho u both havent confessed 2 nething) if u both decided u wanted 2 b 2gether...
u'd hav 2 go against ur family... n do u really wanna do tht...

[x__pOOja]

You can marry whoever you want who gives a eef what other people think, If you love then then thats it. End of story..but i think its gross....its like marrying your brother...and like who does that! :D:D
Daisy always has long posts, gawsh I get tired of reading LOL

[SURTIGAL]

x pooja keep ur opinions 2 ur self its up2 her if she wanna marry ok

[x__pOOja]

excuse me! I said she can marry who she wants!

[SURTIGAL]

i know pooja u siad she can marry any1 she likes but cousin is not a brother they wernt born from the same mother and in our religon one can marry a cousin

[x__pOOja]

To meee its gross! i dont give a fuck what she does
she should do whatever she wants

[daisy]

now now ppl, no fights around here.. i agree with both of u.. i agree with u pooja, coz i always thought to myself that marryin ur cousin is gross, and i always thought of that, until i met him, i always stayed a distance from him, so i wasnt sure what feelings i had until i went a bit closer etc.. an surtigal, i agree with u aswell, that if ur not born from the same mother and father then whats the deal, although i am still against first cuz coz thats like some of ur blood runnin in it.. i appreciate ur help, but please please dnt argue.. i just need advice thats all
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[SURTIGAL]

pooja can u mind ur lang pls no need to get all hyped up

[x__pOOja]

can you just like let it go

[cooldude]

Marrying ur cousin? fcuk r u Ok(apart from ur relly long weird posts)? My friend feta ritely said .. "Bro!! its the end of days!" lol
corrupted youth of 2day...
*shakes Head*

[Stricly Singhs Mafia]

Personally I think it is wrong. I mean cousins are cousins no matter what generation. I mean just because the generation changes doesn't mean that the blood line is any diff. I mean the world has changed for the better and also for the worst and between all this change we should not change the ways we look at our family values. I mean one day you call him/her cousin (which is like a brother or sister) and the next day ur wife or husband. I don't kno something don't click there seems like a big ethical issue to me. But that is what i think i mean its no like the world runs on what i think. At the end all it comes down is to u. Your life u live how you want it you kno what i mean
but to me it is not right. peace

[saantje]

Personally I think it is wrong. I mean cousins are cousins no matter what generation. I mean just because the generation changes doesn't mean that the blood line is any diff. I mean the world has changed for the better and also for the worst and between all this change we should not change the ways we look at our family values. I mean one day you call him/her cousin (which is like a brother or sister) and the next day ur wife or husband. I don't kno something don't click there seems like a big ethical issue to me. But that is what i think i mean its no like the world runs on what i think. At the end all it comes down is to u. Your life u live how you want it you kno what i mean
but to me it is not right. peace

I totally agree with you that we call dem ''bhai'' ''baji'' and den damn u are their hubby/wifey uhh come one. But cant u marry a 2nd cousin? Like not the kids of ur mums sister/brother and/or ur dads sister/brothers kids, the cousin u never really saw and never really called ''bhai'' ''baji''.

One more thing... for example u and me are cousins. You are my mums sisters kid. Your dad isnt from our family and mine dad is also not from our family sow we got half the same blood. Still cant we get married?

I knw retarted english, em not frm uk...

w8in 4 ur/others reply...

[Stricly Singhs Mafia]

I totally agree with you that we call dem ''bhai'' ''baji'' and den damn u are their hubby/wifey uhh come one. But cant u marry a 2nd cousin? Like not the kids of ur mums sister/brother and/or ur dads sister/brothers kids, the cousin u never really saw and never really called ''bhai'' ''baji''.

One more thing... for example u and me are cousins. You are my mums sisters kid. Your dad isnt from our family and mine dad is also not from our family sow we got half the same blood. Still cant we get married?

I knw retarted english, em not frm uk...

w8in 4 ur/others reply...

haha ya dats just too wierd u kno. i don't kno yaar this issue is very comlicated cuz it just dosen't involve famliy values and stuff it also kind goes into that ethical catogery and stuff u kno. But like i dont' think that i would marry a cousiin period just to avoid this confusion u kno. I mean you haven't seen a billion dollars but we still call em billion dollars. just cuz u haven't seen ur cousing doesn't mean they aren't ur bhaji or bahan ji u kno what i mean. well this issue is very complicated yaar so to avoid it i'd rather not get involved with the cousin period haha.

hmm i think the term cousin is bein used very overated these dayz. but if it was like that i guess we'd still be half cousins won't we. i mean the word cousin mean a son or daugther of uncle or a aunt ( yea i had to actually go look it up haha) but it is so confusing sorry for the late reply

[xoxaDoRaBlExox]

my friends marrying her cuzzin tats
cuz in her religion shes allowed....

but on the whole i disaprove of the notion

2 words: Bad Idea!!!!

[saantje]

haha ya dats just too wierd u kno. i don't kno yaar this issue is very comlicated cuz it just dosen't involve famliy values and stuff it also kind goes into that ethical catogery and stuff u kno. But like i dont' think that i would marry a cousiin period just to avoid this confusion u kno. I mean you haven't seen a billion dollars but we still call em billion dollars. just cuz u haven't seen ur cousing doesn't mean they aren't ur bhaji or bahan ji u kno what i mean. well this issue is very complicated yaar so to avoid it i'd rather not get involved with the cousin period haha.

hmm i think the term cousin is bein used very overated these dayz. but if it was like that i guess we'd still be half cousins won't we. i mean the word cousin mean a son or daugther of uncle or a aunt ( yea i had to actually go look it up haha) but it is so confusing sorry for the late reply

hehehe yeah i see u no actually it is just bad i agree with miss adorale :cool:
but may be not if its a cousin who u dont no like i said before and if its half half^^

nope u knw wht it is just confusing hehe ah leave it n its okey i dun mind 4 the late reply :custom3:

[Stricly Singhs Mafia]

hehehe yeah i see u no actually it is just bad i agree with miss adorale :cool:
but may be not if its a cousin who u dont no like i said before and if its half half^^

nope u knw wht it is just confusing hehe ah leave it n its okey i dun mind 4 the late reply :custom3:

ya it is according to me u and miss adorable haha. i don't kno i think u might have to go to a priest to ask this question he will be more helpful then me haha or anybody on this forum ji.

yea very confusing yaar i am still confused about it so i going to stay against it haha thank u for understanding

[**Jatti**]

bad idea. thats gross !!!!

[*life full of dreamz*]

^^^ am just curious to why ur allowed to get married to ur cousins, coz its been sed that by marrying ur cousins, there are higher chances that the offspring will develop some sort of genetic disorder, if both have a carrier in there recessive allele.. so thats the reason why its best to marry out of the relation circle, as there are less chances of bein a carrier in the family
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ok if u sayn thers a higher chance of that.. then out ther, ther r so many white ppl hu r disabled n that... ther shud b hardly any of them bn like that then...

ye v do hear ther chances marryn ur 1st cousin thngs like that happen...
but then agen the ppl hu aint related ther kids cn hav that problem too

[Ghazi_Spirit]

The more you marry into your own genetic pool means that if there is some recessive trait that could be bad for you such as make your children mentally or physically impaired...will be doubled.

Its always good to add variety to the gene pool and is generally healthier for society.

[daisy]

ok if u sayn thers a higher chance of that.. then out ther, ther r so many white ppl hu r disabled n that... ther shud b hardly any of them bn like that then...

ye v do hear ther chances marryn ur 1st cousin thngs like that happen...
but then agen the ppl hu aint related ther kids cn hav that problem too

first of all these children that has disability problem, not just relating to white people, are disabled for a particular reason.. this could be due to genetic inheritence or it could be an environmental factor that triggered while the child was in the mother's womb.. when i say genetic inheritence, then i mean like decades ago, when ancestors would marry there cousins.. an example in the christians society would be the 'king henry1' who later died due to STD... however its been later reported that there have been carriers amongst the society that was passed from our ancestors which we don't even know about it, unless we have a blood test.. on the other hand when i say environmental factor this could be passive smoking leadin to the child, drinking alcohol, inappropriate diet, working or excersing to much, lacking of nutirients, so ur not taking the right medicine etc.. i wont go into detail, coz i can go all day to why a person is disabled.. but what i am trying to emphasise is that a person can have disability problem, even tho u think u are fine
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[*Amna*]

marryinh your cousin might be disgusting and gross for some people as it is not allowed in their religion and its not something they r used 2

however, i am muslim so its pretty normal 4 us 2 get married 2 our cousins. And about the genetic thing...Your kids will only be abnormal if u marry ur cousin, n den ur son/daughter marrys their cousin n so on. If this is the case then d 2nd or 3rd generation might be abnormal. But It almost never happens d first time.

And if he is ur 2nd cousin den i dun think thers ny problem :D

[!K*R*I*S*H!]

^ shes right its not forbidden for muslims but for hindus it doesnt look right. And about the abnormality i have not heard any such cases like that.

[*funkar*]

do u think that it is right to get married to ur cousin??

il probably say that its wrong with the first cousin, but not with the second or third etc

i know its allowed in all the religion apart from hindusium, so could someone update me here to why a person is allowed to get married to there cousin despite knowin that u have the same blood runnin, that can cause the upcomin child to have some problems in that child body system?

or let me know to why it isnt allowed, even tho you have the different genetic material to the opposed person?

i would really appreciate it, coz i kinda have a thing for my cuz, but he calls me sister, and everyone knows that, i dnt like that, coz he's behaviour is more like a husband which i dnt fink he knows that, but ppl have been talkin about how close we are, and they tryin to seperate us, coz the outside ppl even think were husband and wife, he would cook me even tho he cant, and then feed me with his own hand in seperate room, and if i dnt eat a day, he wont, if i get upset, then he will get upset coz he feels hurt.. i never seen a brother doin that, an i would find it disgutin if i did.. altho i do have a bf, i dnt know why i cant stop thinkin about him, were on the fones all day, even on the net, he doesnt want his parents to know that i cht to him, and he doesnt want my mum to know, and vice versa.. i dnt know what in his head, but he always call me behen ji even tho his older then me

now back to the topic, what do u think of gettin married to ur cousin
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well, in my opinion,
to marry 1st cousin or any cousin of\family
is out of Question..
i wud never marry
any cousin!!! or to any 1 from same family or in Relations, as if we do, same jinns be
going round n round in family.
Rather
Instead\get some 1 from out side in family,
so we get new ideas, image and
culture of other family,
which would be very useful
for our family's upbringing.
that's all.
Its not worth
to get married to any of
Cousin !!!

t.f.s.