Guys!!

[bollygirl]

Hii,,
Is it true that guys need some "time alone" once in a while? I mean what is this that sometimes u guys are soo much in "love" that u contact the girl evryday, and suddenly u disapear without saying anything, and if the girls tries to ask u, all she gets back is that sorry I've been busy etc! does that means that he's no more interested?, or is he just really busy, or ya.. like what should a girl do? when the guy is giving her a cold shoulder?? even though the guy is going threw some problems in his life, but still does that means that he has to be rude and hurt the girls feelings?? :S I don't get it, plz some1 explain to me what to do?? Should I be supportive and try to cheer him up, or just stay back and wait??

[cooldude]

lol .. well sometimes its like a guy feels that only he is talkin.msg or whatever and gal's not realy interested .. may be he does that so that gurl also makes the first move sometimes .. cuz i have seen if u ask a gurl too much then it gets her in the head ... lol if all this makes any sense

[Devdasi]

hmmm yea itz true... i've cn a lot of guyz do tht...
i think its cause when gurlz hav a problem they like 2 talk
2 their bf n involve them n ask 4 their advice but as u know
guyz r famous 4 not wanting 2 talk bout their feelings/ problems...
n they hav the opposite reaction 2 push away their gf n act all cold...

It might seem obvious but the best thing i can suggest is talk 2 him
n ask him whutz wrong... n weather itz got anything 2 do wiv ur relationship...
n tell him tht u want 2 stand by him n support him but if he wants sum space
u respect his decision... cause at this point if we get 2 pushy thtz wen guyz accuse us gurlz of being 'clingy'... :rolleyes:
Hope tht helped... :cool:

[bollygirl]

Thx for ur advice cooldude N devdasi.. :)
And I'll try talking to him about it, and then let u know what happend.. but like what if he doesn't want to talk, and still acts cold?? Cause he is that kinda guy, it's like so hard to get something out of him.. well well, I'll try atleast.. =/
<3

[bollygirl]

I did what u guys said, and guess what i got back? nothing, nothing at all! he asked if it was something important and hung up on me.. :(

[cooldude]

I did what u guys said, and guess what i got back? nothing, nothing at all! he asked if it was something important and hung up on me.. :(

Did u say something that hurt his feelings? sometimes ppl r not very expressive sometimes,, may be upset about something but that depends on kind of person

Is the dude outgoing or kinda reserved who keeps things to himself?....


well whatever hope things work out for u

[Ð]

aww ur in such a sucky situation. i guess try to find up what is up,
but don't be too pushy sometimes people really do need alone time and
cant talk to others. Let him know ur there for him if he needs u. I hope things
work out for u two, sad to hear he hung up on you :(

[bollygirl]

Hmm, no cooldude i didn't say or do anything to hurt him, and if something i did had hurted him then he would have told me that right away, that hey look this is bothering me so stop it or something,, and as for wht kinda person he is so well he is quite outgoing, but again he can be soooo resereved sometimes that even i don't feel that i know him at all.. in other words he's a really complicated person..:/ But one thing am sure about and that is that i haven't done anything "wrong",,
And D, I will always be there for him, but I don't think he needs me anymore.. I keep getting a really bad feeling that he won't contact me now for a long time.. Oh god i can't leave without him... plz pray for me..:( it has been 2 weeks now..
Maybe I should text him and him and talk abt it? Or should I ask some of his friends about it? or maybe i shouldn't? =/

[Ð]

And D, I will always be there for him, but I don't think he needs me anymore.. I keep getting a really bad feeling that he won't contact me now for a long time.. Oh god i can't leave without him... plz pray for me..:( it has been 2 weeks now..
Maybe I should text him and him and talk abt it? Or should I ask some of his friends about it? or maybe i shouldn't? =/aww hun dont lose hope, u never know it could be just a phase hes going thru, and ofcorse i'll pray for u!
if hes not speaking up i guess u could ask a friend, but i hope that wont offend
the guy since he really does sound complicated?

[bollygirl]

Thank u D for ur support.. :( I think it's best I should just wait, I won't contact him no more.. If he needs me and if he misses me then he would realize it soon or else then it was never meant to be.. :(

[cooldude]

I think it's best I should just wait, I won't contact him no more.. If he needs me and if he misses me then he would realize it soon or else then it was never meant to be.. :(
I have no experience in matters of love but may be u cud ask the guy? I mean its not gonna hurt .. there is always a reason for these things.. ppl don't stop talkin like that.. dun blow away a relationship like that ...

[bollygirl]

thx for ur support to cooldude,, u made me think about trying once more now... Hmm, i think i'll give it one last chance and ask him.. Just hope he gives me some answers this time.. :-S

[Devdasi]

thx for ur support to cooldude,, u made me think about trying once more now... Hmm, i think i'll give it one last chance and ask him.. Just hope he gives me some answers this time.. :-S

u mite wana try talking 2 him face-to-face
at least tht way he cnt hang up on u... :rolleyes: lol

[daisy]

sum guys when they have too much on there head... they like to deal the situation there selves.. so i wud say to give him space.. first talk to him about it.. an if he doesnt respond to u straight forwardly.. then i wud say demand ur rights to know what is goin with him.. if he still doesnt speak then.. am sorry to say but i fink his probably caught up in another net.. wheras if he does talk to u and open briefly.. then just stay supportive.. dont pressurize him too much.. coz gals are known to irriate there bf with lots of question, and esp remindin them of things that they dont wanna fink about it.. probably his in 1 of these two areas.. but hope fings go well
xxx

[bollygirl]

Hey, thanx for all of ur advices and help, I've done it all now.. But still no use..It's over now..:'( and the sooner i accept that the better it is for me, Just hope that one morning i'll wake up and it won't hurt that much as it does right now.. Anyways thank u once again alot.. Take Care, Bye!

[daisy]

am gnna be a bit nosy here.. but what was the break up over about?? u dnt have o say if u dnt want to.. but all i can say is that sumtym a person makes a wrong decision when they are a bit angry. its best to think about it over twice.. an if u have officially broke up with him.. then all i can say is that there is plenty more fishes in the sea.. just because one goldfish didnt meet ur expectation.. doesnt mean u need to get upset over it.. just keep urself occupied.. an il probably envy u if u can actually forget him
xxx

[Hot NZ Guy]

When i read ur post i was gonna say i dont think he is interested anymore.. For some guys its all about the hunt once they have found wat they are looking for they become un-interested and move on, esp if there is another gal in the picture or if they didnt expect the current gal they were after to be what they were looking for...

Take it on the chin and move on, plenty other guys... If he was really into you he wouldnt have hurt you like that..

All the best :)

[•Amrita•]

hey hun,

I would have to agree with Aman above, sad to say it but it seems like this guy
just needs an excuse to move on.. there might be a wide variety of reasons for this, but in the end, its not right for him to treat u like this.

I think the best thing to do, is just to carry on with your life, if he wants to play
these kiddish games, then let him.

[cooldude]

thx for ur support to cooldude,, u made me think about trying once more now... Hmm, i think i'll give it one last chance and ask him.. Just hope he gives me some answers this time.. :-S

Either u have't told us everything or if the dude just stops like that ... its time to forgot this ridiculous person...m sure there r others

[bollygirl]

For all of u who have answerd me, and given me advices i will once again thank u for that, it's been alot of help.. Ok the latest update in my life is that i just know I have to move on now, but i've rather wait.. right now this is the only thing i want to do besides crying over it..:'( .. I just keep pretending that he's on a vication and when he gets back evrything will be back to normal,, Even though the vication might never end.. :( Because i don't want to forget him and i also don't want any answers from him.. as i said i've tried everything i could do to talk to him, but since he ain't given me any thing back then yeah I know i have to see the fact that maybe he's found some1 else in his life, or that he's just not interested in me anymore.. I've also talked to his friend and he just said that he is working 12 hours a day because he needs alot of money nowadays, and that he is also going through alot of other stress.. :/ But again if it was only the that he has alot of problems then he could talked to me about it, and i would understand him and support him, all i wish for is that he only once, just once had tried to talk to me, and i had respected his desicion, but when he doesn't even care then i cant do anything,
I love him to much to stress him anymore so i'm struggling through my life and just hoping it will soon stop hurting so much,.. Anyways i'll let u all know if something happens, till then take care.. :( <'3

[Lavender]

He's not worth it. Some men get freaked out at the idea of commitment.

I've experienced the same thing. Sometimes he cant keep away, other times he's so distant I feel like I don't even know him anymore. I got rid of him and I'm so much happier for it now. Suchiously, it'll do you a world of good and you'll realise what a waste of time he really was.

Either way, Good luck!

[Devilz Angel]

i agree wid da person above me

[bollygirl]

I don't know what it was, but it didn't have anything to do with commitment, coz in our realationship he was the one who always talked abt future, marrige etc. I never did that, even though that was my dream to have a future with him, i still never talked much about it.. coz i was afraid of that he might get freaked out.. and the best and also the worst part about him is that he always knew and still knows how i feel, i never had to say anything to him, because he always knew what was going on in my head. He could just look at me and tell me all abt what i was thinking. He was so different from evryone else, not like the guys at his age at all.. :( I miss him...