break up

[kalashna_love]

have any of you guys ever noticed this:
when you are in love and had a relationship say for about 5 years and when you guys break - up (toking from the point of the guy) and when u see the girl (ex) pass infront of you and you feel kinda jealous....and angry and mad,,, and a whole lot of emotions....

and when you see em with someone else than you can kill taht someone?especially when you havent been able to get someone and she has coz she is a gal and she will get a guy within seconds...??

any idea why this happens?

[Devdasi]

I think there may b a number of reason y this happens... Firstly i guess it depends on whut kinda
break-up u had... weather it was a mutual agreement 2 split up cause if it wasnt, u may still b in love wiv her...

Secondly... guyz! Jelousy may jus b a guy thing... like even if u dnt want her u dnt want ne1
else 2 hav her either... especially wen U dnt hav ne1 else... Also i mean 5 years is a long time...
I mean or 5 years if ur wiv sum1 ur used 2 caring 4 them being there 4 them n u kinda start
thinking of tht person as urz (not necessarliy in a bad way but i guess itz human nature) n then
suddenly seeing tht person wiv sum1 else jus instinctively brings up these feelings...
It mite b feelings of insecurity n lack of confidence... I guess itz normal especially if u've
recently jus broken up or had a bad break-up... but if itz starts getting out of hand or
driving u crazy then i guess itz probly wise 2 see a councillor...

If ur on gud terms wiv ur ex these feelings may not b as strong...
does the word closure ring a bell?... lol

Dunno if tht was any help... but thtz whut i think...
so ru in this situation or sum1 u know?...

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happens cuz u havent gotten over that person yet, you'll need to give give it some time.

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^^ Agree with Devi

[kalashna_love]

one of my friends was in this situation...a guy my age tats 21......
it did really help, wasnt able to determine why myself...thanx for the insight

[daisy]

i realy wish what u sed about a guy's point of view is so true.. but sadly my bf trusts me so much, that even if i hang around with my ex without him knowin, it wont hurt him.. coz he knows me inside and outside, that i cannot look at a guy in that way apart from him
xxx

[•Amrita•]

u can't really ever forget who u love, i mean yah the memories fade, and maybe wen u see them again after a few yrs, u might even be happy that they r happy, but wen the wounds r fresh, it's hard to forgive and forget..
Also, sometimes one person in the r/s can move on more easily than the other, sometimes one is also more emotionally stronger.. it just depends, bc wen we get into a r/s we all bring our own personality to the table and everyone's idea of dealing with a break up is different.
I've had friends who broke up witha long term bf and were dating withing a few months and happy, and others who r still single and can't get over it.. and others who hate him and don't want anyone to mention his name. so it differs from person to person. Sometimes tho, even the girl can't move on as easily, but i guess in a way, society demands that a female have a partner up to a certain age, whereas guys can get away with beiing single for a longer period of time..

[~*BW PriNCeSS*~]

first i dont exactly agree with wht u said
cuz i have also seen girls stay single after
their break up while the guy already starts
hanging out with gurls in no time n will even
start dating... ok lets get bak to ur question

its true that u do feel that jealousy but
its not only from guys side... even gurls
feel tht way when they see their ex or
the person they loved at once but it
depends on individual on how emotional
they are... and i agree with Amrita sis
totally on the idea that girls will not be
allowed to stay single for too long...
while a guy is given that freedom

[Stingy]

yeh..but its similar to girls.. i recently broke up with my bf for a couple of months..and he had a gf like almosst right after so it makes me jeoulous to see him with her..and especiially cz he cheats on her all the time and i no..and i actaulyl ended up hookin up with him like a couple of weeks ago,,but it still makes me angry that he has a girl

[jackson86]

Hii stingy..many people thing that men move on faster than women after break up..but its not true it depends upon how great the love was and the pain it caused.I don't think its a guy or grl thing...it's a personal emotional thing