why do we get so paranoid as girls....

[DIYA999]

i dont know why, but my cousin is engaged to her cousin, and they do like each other alot, they live together together ( not in THAT way but because hes from back home and is here working) and i can see he does love her but she gets paranoid and thinks hel cheat or lie to her because of an experience with her ex....i keep telling her to stop being so paranoid and insecure...but i rem i was olike that too.
she has no reason to be insecure and paranoid and even she knows that and its obvious hes a genuinely nice guy, but i guess past experiences are hard to let go. she cant explain this to him because obviously he doesnt know she had a boyfriend before...so can someone help me with advice. i tried but she was quick to point out that i was also a paranoid and insecure person before..and can still be.

thanks

[*PaRi*]

hmm thats a sticky situation. well personally i feel when you love someone you should trust them. and if you dont or cant trust that person you shouldnt be with that person. if its clear that they truly wanna be with each other then there shouldnt be any problems. but its true how sometimes no matter how much you love someone you do at times feel like something could happen. i dont know. honestly i think the best thing to do is have the two of them talk about how she feels when she isnt with him.... communication is keyy.
hope it helps. =)

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

WELLL......HES FRM BACK HOME.....i wud say she jus forget abt past and dnt tell him abt her XYZ THNG...otherwise he'll be paranoid 99.9% ....frm a lesson frm past she shud take care of him wt i mean xtra care u never knw even though hes 100% genuine guy...i knw loads of back home ppl they have nicest wives really decnet ,back home ppl do ***k abt with them....

[daisy]

a realationship is based on trust and faith. if she doesnt trust him about telling him about her ex. then id say forget the relationship. because if she is getting paranoid while engaged. then marriage is going to be more of a compromise situation where you will have to face so many obstacle. if she is comparing her problem to you, then tell her that not every guy is the same. you been through the situation so you know how life is like, and that your more experience then she is, so you know what your saying. but if she still carries on being stuborn then i dont think she should even be in a relationship, since she sounds to naive to move on so quickly. its either communicating with her fiance or trust in him
xxx

[•Amrita•]

the truth is, wen a woman or a man doesn't trust their partner, they tend to lose them.... so you shud defi tell her that she shud give him the benefit of the doubt and stop treating him how she would not wanna be treated.
wen we are in a r/s and not doing anything wrong and are faithful, we wudn't want our partner saying otherwise. but if she keeps at it, then she might as well just leave him b/c it seems as if, she isn't ready for a new r/s at all.
maybe due to her past experiences, she thinks it'll happen again to her, but that was in the past and this is the present. that was a different guy and he's totally different.