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A®M§-HØU§E
Feb 25, 2009, 01:27 PM
now ive never actually wrote abt anythin on here b4, im not 2 bad on sorting things out, becuz i usually am good at understandin things but recently i have no idea on wat 2 do 2 sort dis problem.

it started a few days ago, it was my gf's bday, i did alot of stuff 4 her dat day, an everythin was goin good, den later dat night wen i was at home talkin 2 her on da phone she asked me 2 come on cam 4 her, an i said i wud in abt half an hr, an she got upset abt dat, den i just asked her not 2 get upset an just talk 2 me 4 abit untill i was ready 2 come on, she started talkin 2 me den wen it came time 4 me 2 come on cam she said she wanted 2 go, an got upset again. i persuaded her 2 stop, but i started askin her why she wanted 2 get upset, an just leave, an why she didnt wanna spend those last few hrs of her bday wid me, wen i had done so much 4 her dat day, she started 2 cry an after a lil whle she stopped, an we talked untill she went 2 sleep. da day after she called me in da mornin, an said it was wrong of me 4 treatin her bad an makin her cry on her bday, an i didnt understand wat i had done dat was so wrong.

she said her mum had told her 2 stop talkin 2 me 4 makin her cry on her bday, an dat i was a bad bf, an she shouldnt talk 2 me anymore, she started talkin abt breakin up wid me an said she wanted me 2 be her friend, i got pissed off at dis, an i admit i did start sayin stuff 2 her, but i didnt say anythin 2 bad, anyway i didnt talk 2 her 4 da rest of dat day. den da day after dat she called me an said she wanted 2 sort it out, we wer good 4 a few hrs, untill she mentioned her mum not likin me as her bf, an i just said ur mum should be ok wid it, cuz i am ur bf. she said her mum jus didnt like da idea of me doin stuff wid her, an i said dats ok but she should understand dat it happens between ppl hu are in love an in a relationship, she took dat as me callin her a slut 4 some reason, an she just said wat type of family do u think im from, an she started bringin my sister into it, an told me 2 put her in dat situation, an i asked her 2 not bring her into it cuz my sister is young right now, so i dont wanna think abt anythin like dat, bt she kept sayin it so i lost my temper an ended up swearin at her, now yday we didnt talk at all, an 2day shes accusin me of bein a violent person, an she says her mum an friend are both tellin her 2 stay away from me becuz im 2 violent, i dont even no wat ive done dat is violent? i just swore at her once.

Devilz Angel
Feb 25, 2009, 07:08 PM
1. i think shes on her period.
2. she needs 2 stop gettin influenced so easily
3. she really needs 2 stop finding dumb issues 2 fight over wid u.


i suck at adivce, but buddy she needs to lay off her mothers wrds, and realize what she wants, instead what her mother wants. if she LOVES you, she shouldnt b taking her mothers wrds into consideration. n wen it cums 2 a relationship..its not all abt ME ME ME, u gotta think abt da other person. she obviously is confused because at one side her mother dat dislikes you, and there is the part she likes you, and doesnt kno what she should stick to.

i say try to work it out, but if she keeps misunderstandin u every step of da way, den mayb u gotta let go...u can only take sum1's temper tantrums 2 a certain extent..n if she loves you...she'll know that that these useless fights r not worth it. sry im not vry helpful.

daisy
Mar 01, 2009, 10:03 PM
if ur gf isnt tryin to understand u, then why dont u try and undertand her.. u obviously, know that she is bein pressurised by her mother and friend, that u have a violent character, maybe that is what had happened on her bday.. that 'sum1' probably told her about sumfin negative about u that day, and u prooved that 'sum1' right.. or i could be wrong there.. but what i am tryin to say is that majority of the girls are emotionally weak.. they always need someone tellin thm what to do.. and i do understand that there is a limit of takin ur anger to an extent.. but u gota be reasonable with her.. find out what do she want and why is she behavin in this way.. if she isnt bein cooperative with u, then i suppose she's made up her mind up that she rather remain friends with u.. hope things work best
xxx

Hot NZ Guy
Mar 02, 2009, 12:32 AM
Mate i am giving advice from what you have written.

All i can say (sorry if this sounds harsh) is:

1. She seems like a gal who is high maintenance

2. She doesnt seem to think for herself. If she gets soo influenced by parents etc so easily - is she worth it? Im only saying this coz you said you didnt do anything violent (am taking you at face value), coz if you did bro your a tossa and she needs to break this r/s with you!

3. Its good she is expressing her self to you, but its all good if she is expressing the truth rather then saying what she has been told. At the end of the day if you guys always gonna fight about all this - is it really worth it?

4. Mate if i were you - id make a list of things you need to discuss with her. Take her out for ice-cream or coffee and talk about it. In a r/s there needs to be a compromise somewhere. And you guys need to get everything out. No fighting - just plain simple chatting.

5. Also mate - keep your temperament. Be gentle with her and dont swear. Listen to her properly.

Anywyas hope that helps man!

•Amrita•
Apr 11, 2009, 10:57 PM
Ok.. first off.

I agree with wot Aman has said above, she does seem high maintenance. It might just be that she is lissenin to woteva her mom is saying, and in the long run, u gotta figure out if she's the type to leave u stranded down the line if her mom says NO to you.

You don't wanna get too involved with anyone who doesn't have your back, it seems like she acts like she doesn't even know you, compared to wot her mom's saying about you. But don't swear, I know she might say things wen she's crying or mad, but one of you has to be the grown up, especially during a fight. Wot I've learned in my own r/s is not to instigate further shit wen we both are pissed, and I do say things outta line wen im mad, but you have to realise that weneva we talk, we say shit to our partner, but we can't take it bac ever. So just try and watch your words.

I think you just need to sit down with her and talk to her one on one. Tell her how ur feelings, and if she doesn't know the real you by now, then maybe she never will. If she just lissening to her mom rather than sticking up for u, then maybe u 2 are better off as friends.

Msz.Independent
Apr 16, 2009, 06:14 AM
i think she got mood swingz:eek: