just an updat of my life??

[daisy]

i just fort id post sumfin recent about my life, and get ur opinion of what wud u do in this situation.. well basically my bf has been actin realy weird with me these days.. he isnt the same guy hu i fell in love with... i couldnt take the ignorance he was givin me.. so i confronted the person, to find out, that he was behavin strangely coz his mum hadnt been talkin to him for a month coz he wasnt gettin married to a muslim gal.. i knew his mum had been givin him warnings that she may do somethin he will regret but i didnt fink it was so soon.. neways i was chttin to leena or priya ( from bw aswell) and she adviced me to either fight for what i got or leave it.. i decided to leave it.. and advice my bf to listen to his mum.. afterall his mum shud come first.. but i know he wants me and his mum.. cz of religion wise its not possible.. the reason why i didnt want to fight. coz i am a medical student.. an i wanna complete me degree that will take me atleast 10yrs to be in the place i wanna be in coz i hv this dream that i need to furfil which evryone close to me knows about.. and by gettin married at a young age id probably not able to cope with education and housework.. coz i dont no hw to cook, clean or operate machinery in the house.. such as washin machin etc.. coz he does everythin for me so y do i need to learn.. if he can wait till then which i know he can then i will see but i dont wana put pressure on him coz of his family expectation.. due to ths i tried to get rid of him. but he wudnt free me.. but he did say that he will remain as a friend with me which i agreed to even tho i was burnin from deep inside my heart coz i felt like i was the problem for him but he tried to make me feel better that am not.. an all of sudden he changed into the psn i luvd.. the psn hu knws when am cryin from the inside without me makin ne expression.. the psn hu knws hw to turn my anger into laughter etc.. nwys even tho i agree to be mates with him.. i didnt wanna c him at all.. but he still comes down without informin but i alwyas manage to hide from him which i feel bad.. so then i decided to go back into the old psn i use to be.. i started takin up alcohol.. goin out with my work mates everydy havin a laugh to waste my time.. i have been doin this for a week.. an like i sed i dnt need to tell him nefin he can even tell when am givin blank calls with private number etc.. and the same applied with the drinkin.. e calls me up in the mornin to find out that i haave been cryin and i have been havin a hangover etc.. i thought this would mke him angry and he will bring hatred into me.. but insted he was advisin me not to go into my past.. he sed he will get back to me.. an wanna see me now an i made up an excuse an put the phone down an switched of my phone.. then yesterday night.. one of my work mate was buggin to have a drink in his house.. i didnt mind but coz his n asian guy who is decent.. i still had a doubt so i brot my closest chinese mate from my workplace to make sure that he protects me.. which he always do.. neway we had a drink an so.. but that guy hu's house i went to drank to much and became touchy touchy.. am sure u know what i mean.. when i say that.. but neways i kept on pushin him away.. an thinkin to myself that my bf doesnt want me.. preventin me from slappin an yellin at him.. but i manage to be on the safe side coz of my chinese mate.. neways today he comes to work.. an he was apologizin an then he couldnt face me and went home and hour later, i felt so bad thinkin that now am a problem for him.. neways it didnt bother me that much but now his aavoidin me.. i mean i understnd that he drank too much thats why he behaved in that way so thats nufin new knew.. coz that happens to evryone hu drinks a lot but i knew deep inside he is a really nice guy.. but i suppose am the first gal hu's ever had a drink with him, led him to behave in that way.. an this thurs is our pay day.. an he planned to go out as a big group n now he doesnt wanna come coz he says he wants to stay awy from drinks.. i dnt know.. sum1 tell me do u fink i shudnt persuade him to come on thurs.. coz i know he is feelin really really guilty.. but i want him to be his self... coz i dnt like makin enemies.. well neways thats what had happened recently.. id be happy if sum1 cud give me some sort of a solution from this essay
xxxxx

[Hot NZ Guy]

daisy dear you need to type in paragraphs. Couldnt read your post as too hard to read...

[cooldude]

Its insane .. how can u rite so much without any space ..hope sense prevails into you:rolleyes:

[xoxaDoRaBlExox]

Its insane .. how can u rite so much without any space ..hope sense prevails into you:rolleyes:

i second that

[-Rohit-]

my advice to you quit drinking ,drinking doesnt do any good to you,everyone has depression,but they dont revert to drinking to overcome it

see if ur both of ur love is true,then u can get married,but marriage brings responsiblties ,if u can handle then u can go ahead

and my advise u to continue ur studies too,u can pursue ur dream and also win your love
no matter what happens wether u dont get married to ur b.f or if u get married to him,u shud complete ur studies.which will allow you to settle in life and raise a family in future

[daisy]

yes i know my sentence structure is bad.. but i am not going to lie and say i couldnt be bothered puttin paragraphs.. all it is.. i av problems writin essays etc.. but am sure most of u are mature enough to understand that if u cant read it like that.. press reply.. an then add in the paragraphs where u fink its needed.. atleast it will be understandablle

rohit: but do u really fink its possible to luk after a big family, learn to do all the housework, doin ur study and workin at the same time.. i find it difficult
xxx

[-Rohit-]

in a big family everyone shud share their work and responsiblties,its unfair for one to do everything ,ur not a house maid,you are part of the family

i hope ur b.f explains abt u to your family,he shud support you if u want to get married to him and continue ur studies ,ur b.f need to convince his parents

there r lot of girls who got married and still studying and working beause their husbands are supportive

see if things dont work out,then dont be depressed,life isnt faitytale,so u need to move on with ur life and hope for better things in future

[cooldude]

lol only thing I cud find out here is somethin called "drink" . now if its u who drink alot and can't handle it .. plz quit .. .. most girls can't drink and they try to show off and puke after a while .. quit it lol.. Its not gonna make u look "any" cooler...

[Pimped]

I think you are doing the right thing with the bf in terms of backing off. This way, he can see what is important in life and that way you don't have to feel like you are a part of the problem for him.

In regards to the second guy, who gives a flying f**k what he feels like? You shouldn't hae gone along to his place as you should already know what happens when a girl goes to a guys house and vice versa (esp when there's drinks involved). Let him cope with his own problem.

The main issue is the first guy.

[Ð]

I didn't bother reading ur entire post, i've just noticed you have a lof of topics
in this section all about you and & your problems. Ever thought of starting a journal?
thats actually the place where people write updates on their lifes.

[Devilz Angel]

daisyyyyy stop drinking!!!!

[Pimped]

daisyyyyy stop drinking!!!!
I second you on that one

[xoxaDoRaBlExox]

u seem to have alot of guy issues
and i agree STOP DRINKING!

[:..*Sweety*..:]

jus wanna add something...
why do u make things so much harder for u? make things easier for urself, if u don't wanna create a million problems in ur life !!
and that includes drinking..stay away from it !!

[heuro]

Hi,
Love and Relation when we take both things in one time that both things insists us for thinking and it is role of world that at a time we can take one thing in hand.

[•Amrita•]

It is possible to be a medical student, take care of the house and have a family. But I don't think you are ready for it as you're making excuses. You say your in medical school right? So am I, then you should know first hand why what your doing right now is wrong. It's horrible for your health to drink that much and come home and have hangovers the next day.

ALCOHOL WILL NEVER BE THE SOLUTION TO ANY PROBLEM! Period. End of Story.

Do you think by drinking yourself silly every time pay day arrives and then that too alone with some guy who isn't your bf, and who hits on you and touches you is right?

If I had a bf and I was going out drinking with someone else, I would really consider if I'm serious... and is he serious about you? If you say you guys have been together for so long, then why not sit down and talk about your problems like grown adults, which you guys are. This sort of behaviour is very childish and I'm sorry to say but when do you have time to study for med school while getting drunk? I can't recall the last time I even went out, and I don't even drink.. so I don't know how your doing in school.

Medical school is tough but so is any other profession, if you think that doctors are not also moms and wives well step out and look. You will have to balance a career and run a household one day, so stop trying to make excuses and grow up. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but you know I tend to say it how it is to you, and so far your not being mature at all in how you're handling yourself. You create more problems for yourself, no one told you to go out get drunk, no one is telling you to get married right now, but you should grown up a bit if you plan on getting married one day, or at least focus on your studies.

[..Princess..]

Daisy haha your life is like one big soap opera

anyways Tc and goodluck!

[daisy]

just thought id say.. that everything is alright now.. i used to drink out of depression. but i dnt now.. my bf is back to his self and he still loves me like he use to do.. an amrita.. i appreciate ur advice.. an ur words arent harsh.. they bring sense to someone hu is an idiot (like me).. and as for my year.. well personally i dnt fink i did well.. coz i messed it up.. hopefully il be re-doing my year.. and this time il be concentratin and live for myself rather then bein dependent.. but neways fnx for ur advice
xxx

[*PaRi*]

i just fort id post sumfin recent about my life, and get ur opinion of what wud u do in this situation.. well basically my bf has been actin realy weird with me these days.. he isnt the same guy hu i fell in love with... i couldnt take the ignorance he was givin me.. so i confronted the person, to find out, that he was behavin strangely coz his mum hadnt been talkin to him for a month coz he wasnt gettin married to a muslim gal.. i knew his mum had been givin him warnings that she may do somethin he will regret but i didnt fink it was so soon.. neways i was chttin to leena or priya ( from bw aswell) and she adviced me to either fight for what i got or leave it.. i decided to leave it.. and advice my bf to listen to his mum.. afterall his mum shud come first.. but i know he wants me and his mum.. cz of religion wise its not possible.. the reason why i didnt want to fight. coz i am a medical student.. an i wanna complete me degree that will take me atleast 10yrs to be in the place i wanna be in coz i hv this dream that i need to furfil which evryone close to me knows about.. and by gettin married at a young age id probably not able to cope with education and housework.. coz i dont no hw to cook, clean or operate machinery in the house.. such as washin machin etc.. coz he does everythin for me so y do i need to learn.. if he can wait till then which i know he can then i will see but i dont wana put pressure on him coz of his family expectation.. due to ths i tried to get rid of him. but he wudnt free me.. but he did say that he will remain as a friend with me which i agreed to even tho i was burnin from deep inside my heart coz i felt like i was the problem for him but he tried to make me feel better that am not.. an all of sudden he changed into the psn i luvd.. the psn hu knws when am cryin from the inside without me makin ne expression.. the psn hu knws hw to turn my anger into laughter etc.. nwys even tho i agree to be mates with him.. i didnt wanna c him at all.. but he still comes down without informin but i alwyas manage to hide from him which i feel bad.. so then i decided to go back into the old psn i use to be.. i started takin up alcohol.. goin out with my work mates everydy havin a laugh to waste my time.. i have been doin this for a week.. an like i sed i dnt need to tell him nefin he can even tell when am givin blank calls with private number etc.. and the same applied with the drinkin.. e calls me up in the mornin to find out that i haave been cryin and i have been havin a hangover etc.. i thought this would mke him angry and he will bring hatred into me.. but insted he was advisin me not to go into my past.. he sed he will get back to me.. an wanna see me now an i made up an excuse an put the phone down an switched of my phone.. then yesterday night.. one of my work mate was buggin to have a drink in his house.. i didnt mind but coz his n asian guy who is decent.. i still had a doubt so i brot my closest chinese mate from my workplace to make sure that he protects me.. which he always do.. neway we had a drink an so.. but that guy hu's house i went to drank to much and became touchy touchy.. am sure u know what i mean.. when i say that.. but neways i kept on pushin him away.. an thinkin to myself that my bf doesnt want me.. preventin me from slappin an yellin at him.. but i manage to be on the safe side coz of my chinese mate.. neways today he comes to work.. an he was apologizin an then he couldnt face me and went home and hour later, i felt so bad thinkin that now am a problem for him.. neways it didnt bother me that much but now his aavoidin me.. i mean i understnd that he drank too much thats why he behaved in that way so thats nufin new knew.. coz that happens to evryone hu drinks a lot but i knew deep inside he is a really nice guy.. but i suppose am the first gal hu's ever had a drink with him, led him to behave in that way.. an this thurs is our pay day.. an he planned to go out as a big group n now he doesnt wanna come coz he says he wants to stay awy from drinks.. i dnt know.. sum1 tell me do u fink i shudnt persuade him to come on thurs.. coz i know he is feelin really really guilty.. but i want him to be his self... coz i dnt like makin enemies.. well neways thats what had happened recently.. id be happy if sum1 cud give me some sort of a solution from this essay
xxxxx

Awww sweetie, thats got to be reallly tough on you. From alll your previous threads, i know you arent weak enough to let alcohol cover up your pain now are you? Ofcourse not! We human beings have a tendency of finding ways to escape from ourselves for a little while when things arent going our way. We bottle up those feelings & avoid any type of contfrontation....Kind of like how you hung up the phone & switched it off. But lemmme ask you this, If today you were walking down the street & all of sudden you saw him & he had already seen you tooo, would you run away? Or would you pretend you didnt seee him & pace across? OR would you cry? I dont know what you would do....But i def hope it wouldnt be running away.... You dont run from people who hurt you love. Thats so hard to do, trust me i know. My ex and me were tgther for two years and when he calls me, i do exactly what you did. Make something up & switch offf my phone. Sometimes i dont even answer at alll.
Is that what you want? To distant yourself from the person who knows you that deeply? I understand it very difficult. Especiallly since it just recently happned. But you NEED to face it babe. You need to know that everything always works out. Yes, i agreee, his mom is priority, afteralll its his mommy. And the religion thing..... Oh man, i know that one tooo. Its difficult b/c to you it doesnt matter what religion he is, you falll in love with someones heart not their race, right? Thats very different from what his mom thinks. She ofcourse knows you want to make school ur prioro. Let him make the decision. If he choooses to wait, alll the best & if he chooses to listen to his mom, thats something you'll have to understand. It puts him in a difficult position b/c he loves BOTH of you. Keep him outta ur mind for a little while. If he wants to meet you, meet up. Talk about it. You cant run from him, you made him ur friend, so advise him as one. Dont become strangers over this. You've known each other waaaay to long for that. When you love someone you do whatever is best for each other, girrlll you know that i know you do!
As for your co-worker, thats very sticky situation, i honestly doubt that he willll face you anytime sooon. Just lay low as far as that goes. Yes, you both were drinking, it hapn to everyone, youre right. But do you think he might be attracted to you in any way? Think on it.
NOW THE DRINKING. Youre a med student, i know you know what alcohol does to your insides. Do you love your kidneys? Then dont KILL them, If you need a way to escape from reality for a little while, go to the gym, dance, listen to ur ipod, cry do something that relieves the pain & that doesnt HURT YOU! The best thing is to talk to out. Find someone u trust & spill ur guts and dont hold back. I dance ALOT, i have so mch to deal with sometimes that i vent that way. Find what helps you. Try to avoid going out to parties if you know there will be alcohol. Have some frnds over, relax, go out to the town and walk Your friends and family are there for you, they'll never let you fallll. So dont be afraid to express yourself. Dont hide from this, for every problem there is a solution. What is that solution? Whatever your mind & heart wants it to be.
<3


hope it helps,
adhiii.

[*PaRi*]

just thought id say.. that everything is alright now.. i used to drink out of depression. but i dnt now.. my bf is back to his self and he still loves me like he use to do.. an amrita.. i appreciate ur advice.. an ur words arent harsh.. they bring sense to someone hu is an idiot (like me).. and as for my year.. well personally i dnt fink i did well.. coz i messed it up.. hopefully il be re-doing my year.. and this time il be concentratin and live for myself rather then bein dependent.. but neways fnx for ur advice
xxx

oh maaan, i didnt see this part. Well im glad everything worked out!