anyone?

[*PaRi*]

hey everyone ;)
how are you guys?


well i dont know how to or where to begin actually... but i guess im going to have to do my best right?
lately im just not happy. infact nothing really makes me happy.
i know im only 17 and that everyone goes through problems
but for some reason ive just been really bit**y i cant help it. i have a bf and we've been together for about 1 & 1/2 but recently im getting just really irritated with him.
he doesnt make me happy like he used. and the weird thing is that hes still the same but ive changed. but im just not loving him like i used too. today he bought me a promise ring..... and i accepted it. but my heart just totally melted.
because i knew that hes giving me everything he can and im not being my best to him like my heart doesnt know what it wants. we broken up many times
but this time i know that hes going to do anything in his power to make it work,
and i feel TRAPPED that seems like such a horrible thing to say but i need to vent and let this out. im not holding it in anymore.... i just i feel like i need to get away...
you know? like just get in my car and go somewhere and then reality hits.
and i cant do thatt. i caanttt keep running from my problems because sooner or later im going to reach a dead end and thats when i know i'll shatter. i consider myself strong enough to let myself fall apart... ive been through alot in my life everyone has.... i dont know i gues im just tired of pretending to be supergirl who can take on anything, ugh. kfgjklghlhlwkerhtkgtfkgjelkhjehtwehiwheh CRAAAP.
you guys i know it seems like im some spoilt rotten girl who doesnt appreciate anything but im really not. i am a good person. i just dont feel like one anymore...
can anyone give me advice? PLEASE
what would you do if this was your situation ?

btw for those of you who dont know im aradhana aka adhii :D
or to asif & aman im achu lol




THAAANKYOU :custom2:

[Almira]

hi there
im sorry to hear your not doing well. my advice would just be to relax and take a break from everything your doing atm. like from your relationship, school work/uni, work etc.
You really need to just think about how you feel. it seems like your a bit overwhelmed atm and this can be bad cos you'l end up being miserable and treating everyone around you badly.

[*PaRi*]

hi there
im sorry to hear your not doing well. my advice would just be to relax and take a break from everything your doing atm. like from your relationship, school work/uni, work etc.
You really need to just think about how you feel. it seems like your a bit overwhelmed atm and this can be bad cos you'l end up being miserable and treating everyone around you badly.

i did try and take a break but it didnt work. he doesnt leave me alone. not even for a second.
ahh.
i knoww i knoww.
& yea lately i have been having quite an attitude.
thankyou =]

[doe_eyed_beauty]

Hey there Pari

Yeah I know what you kinda of mean, it sometimes happens especially the kind of age you're at, I think its very normal because this is the age when you don't want to be tied down by anything and you just want to be free as a bird, and have no other committments other than to yourself.

But let me ask you something...you're not going out of your way to make others happy or trying to be something or someone you're not supposed to be just for the sake of wanting to be loved or have a sense of belonging..because what happens is sometimes if you put up an act and pretend to be somebody you're not supposed to be you can really end up getting burned out, mabye this is one reason why you've really been irritated lately. I think you really should take out time just for yourself and see what you really want because otherwise you're just going to make things worse for yourself.

The other thing that could really be bothering you is that maybe you're being forced into a committment by your bf when you're not quite ready. I know I'm really jumpy and get irritated if someone tried to force me into anything if I'm not ready for it, I always like to take things at my own pace. The only thing I have to say to you is just be true to yourself and do what your heart wants...and no I know you're not a rotten girl I know, there's nothing wrong with wanting to know what you want and trying to understand yourself, and don't try to worry about what otherse will think about you, remember you should always put yourself first and everything else comes second.

I hope this helped, good luck.

[*PaRi*]

Hey there Pari

Yeah I know what you kinda of mean, it sometimes happens especially the kind of age you're at, I think its very normal because this is the age when you don't want to be tied down by anything and you just want to be free as a bird, and have no other committments other than to yourself.

But let me ask you something...you're not going out of your way to make others happy or trying to be something or someone you're not supposed to be just for the sake of wanting to be loved or have a sense of belonging..because what happens is sometimes if you put up an act and pretend to be somebody you're not supposed to be you can really end up getting burned out, mabye this is one reason why you've really been irritated lately. I think you really should take out time just for yourself and see what you really want because otherwise you're just going to make things worse for yourself.

The other thing that could really be bothering you is that maybe you're being forced into a committment by your bf when you're not quite ready. I know I'm really jumpy and get irritated if someone tried to force me into anything if I'm not ready for it, I always like to take things at my own pace. The only thing I have to say to you is just be true to yourself and do what your heart wants...and no I know you're not a rotten girl I know, there's nothing wrong with wanting to know what you want and trying to understand yourself, and don't try to worry about what otherse will think about you, remember you should always put yourself first and everything else comes second.

I hope this helped, good luck.


aww thanks sis!
yes its truee. i just need time .
maybe it is age.
i dont know. all i do know is that im just at a point where i feel like
im trapped.
i do a lot of venting but i guess the main thing is for me to take time outt.


im just not trying to hurt anyone with this...
ugh.

[doe_eyed_beauty]

Hey Pari

Don't be so hard on yourself. You're only 17 and you have so much to see and learn.

If you don't mind me asking you've mentioned that you feel trapped, I mean maybe we can offer more clear cut advice if you can tell us exactly what it is that is making you feel trapped and that you can't get out of. Acutally I just went back and read what you wrote "I'm tired of pretending to be a supergirl", when I wrote my last post I didn't even remember that, and just off the top of my head I could tell that maybe you were being to hard on yourself.

Hey hon, listen nothing or no one is perfect and you don't have to be perfect and pretend to be supergirl, and if there is someone or people around you who are making you feel that you have to be some kind of super being, and you have to live up to their expectations and you're killing yourself just to make them happy, then let me tell you you're being very unfair to yourself. I don't know much about you but from the way you sound, you seem like a really nice person, and you don't have to change who you are into something else for anyone, whether its family friends, bf etc..because anyone who expects this from you is not loving you unconditionally, and you deserve better.

Other than that it could just be because you want to be independent, and don't want your bf always being around you and you just want time for yourself to be your own individual and find out who you are. I think maybe you should try talking to your bf about how you feel and if he really cares about you he will understand and give you your space for a while (but I know you might not want to do this because you are afraid you might lose him) but like you said yourself you can never run from your problems and the sooner you confront your issues the better it will be for you because it only gets harder and worse if you wait.

Hope this helped a bit. good luck.

[Pimped]

wait.... you have a car? :shock:

[Hot NZ Guy]

Hey Achu,

Your at a stage of your life where you are evaluating your future.. Now you are trying to figure out if this guys is the one.. Come to think of it you started dating him when your 16 – and maybe it was too early??

Anyways you have to talk to him and let him know you need some time. You need some time to enjoy being 17 and being with your friends and family. Tell him the space would be better as it may make your r/s stronger..

Dating someone soo young sometimes can have its positives and negatives… You just need to get your gf’s together and have a slumber party, do your girl things you do and take your mind of him for a while.

I think you knid of know what you want but maybe you are a little sceptical on what steps to take.. Don’t break up with him, but talk to him and you never know he might be really understanding. If he is the one for you im sure he will wait for you…

[*PaRi*]

wait.... you have a car? :shock:


hahaha why does tht shock people? yess i have a car.
an ugly one but it is indeed a car! lol

[Pimped]

lool, is it a cute car like u?

can u see over the steering wheel? :p

[*PaRi*]

lool, is it a cute car like u?

can u see over the steering wheel? :p

naah its an ugly white thing


lol


funny thing is i dont have my license :)
but my dads got a car tht he'll pass onto me.


becuz he doesnt wanna get me a new one :rolleyes:


its whatever.


omg see over the stirring wheeel? LMFAO HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA



youre NOT funny [-X






assiiiiffff!!! :custom21:

[Pimped]

lol cute chica driving an ugly white thing? u making a fashion statement? lolz

me 2 :)

[*PaRi*]

lol cute chica driving an ugly white thing? u making a fashion statement? lolz

me 2 :)



welll its not ugly.
its a white nissan
but i dont want the car.
i want a silver comvertable :)


you love yourself?
CONCEEITED! :custom13:

[Pimped]

welll its not ugly.
its a white nissan
but i dont want the car.
i want a silver comvertable :)


you love yourself?
CONCEEITED! :custom13:
lol a white nissan micra! omg that is uglay!

haha good observation, but now i was just saying it to you the way i say it.

omg not with the long geeky words! does that mean u cant go to the toilet? lolz

[*PaRi*]

lol a white nissan micra! omg that is uglay!

haha good observation, but now i was just saying it to you the way i say it.

omg not with the long geeky words! does that mean u cant go to the toilet? lolz



:rolleyes: ohh whateverr!
& its nott super ugly mister. its decent looking.
haha.



geeky words? hmmmmm


guess im too smart for you :cool:

[•Amrita•]

Hey hun,
I've been thru this feeling before too, but don't worry it's not permanent!
I think you just need a break away from things for a while, and being with ur bf all the time might be making u feel a bit suffocated. I think like Aman said above, some time with just ur girlfriends might actually be good for you. I'm not saying break up with ur bf, but I think some space would be good. And maybe just keep yourself busy, weneva u feel like ur getting depressed and sitting around and doing nothing, surround yourself by good friends and family (if that will make u feel better!). Or go for a drive, play some sports, or just listen to a good song or watch a funny movie!

But don't worry, things will get better I'm sure!

[*PaRi*]

Hey hun,
I've been thru this feeling before too, but don't worry it's not permanent!
I think you just need a break away from things for a while, and being with ur bf all the time might be making u feel a bit suffocated. I think like Aman said above, some time with just ur girlfriends might actually be good for you. I'm not saying break up with ur bf, but I think some space would be good. And maybe just keep yourself busy, weneva u feel like ur getting depressed and sitting around and doing nothing, surround yourself by good friends and family (if that will make u feel better!). Or go for a drive, play some sports, or just listen to a good song or watch a funny movie!

But don't worry, things will get better I'm sure!


awww thanks love!

LATEST UPDATE: my and him did end up breaking up and hes moving to ausitrailia so everything is changing fast! but like i think its all for a good reason you know? tht way he can strt fresh there and i can here in cali, currently im really happy with life.
talking to ppl relaxing. and i like it. but i still feel bad for my ex. but i know tht your 1st love will always be something someone thinks about so im not totally sad yehhno?
life moves on even if youre not sure of whars coming nxt. i accept it.


thanks everyone for your help <3

[Msz.Independent]

u shud take anger management classez cuz u said u been actin b*tchy lately


oh and btw np about the adviice :p

[*PaRi*]

u shud take anger management classez cuz u said u been actin b*tchy lately


oh and btw np about the adviice :p



anger management?i:scratch: i was only acting that way because ive been frustrated.
its not a drastic measure.