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[sweetgal]

i got married when i was 21 yrz old, i did not even see da guy, u nw wid us asians u get married 2 sum1 u dnt even love, so when i first saw him i thiught wat da hell hav i done he was so ugly n lookd old , i culdnt do nythin cuz when i saw him it was on da weddin day, i jus wana cry sooo bad, my frenz kept on sayin dat u r sooo gud 4 him he lukz tooo old n ur tooo pretty 4 him but wat cculd i do....,
when we got married i felt sick when he use 2 touch me i was sooo unhappy i use 2 get bored talkin 2 him n i had nuthin in common wid him but i prentended to b happy,for first few wkz he was ok den he started to accuse me of thingz 2 his mum, he kept on sayin dat she has a boyfriend n she talkz 2 him on her fone every nite i sed 2 him if i did wuld i got married 2 a ugly b...... lyk u , i jus wanted 2 slap him sooo bad, he stopped talkin 2 me weneva he use 2 talk 2 me he alwayz use 2 talk abt his friendz i stayd wid him for 8 mnthz den i culdnt take it ny more den i left him,i recently heard dat he is gay, nn got beaten up by sum1, those guyz must b blind fuckin arnd wid da ugly twat like him,,,,,

[-Rohit-]

well u shud see their heart,not their looks,

i hope you filed for divorce

right now u can start a new life,forget the past

try to work by getting a job or start studying

anyways life isnt fairytale,so dont expect prince charming to be your husband,expect a good loving husband

[sweetgal]

weell he did not hav a heart of gold, n he did not hav a nyc personality,

I DO hav a job, y would i ruin my life thinkin ov HIM,

did i ASK 4 a prince charmin,

[Ð]

You went thru a lot of shit, but I think u should focus on ur future now and
let go of the past. You left him, you can make a new start, sort ur life out.

[!K*R*I*S*H!]

Are you somewhere in india? cause i see these kind of situations in hindi movies. Well anyway goodluck finding a handsome guy.

[aalka*]

I am sure that he has his side of the story too, as it takes two to tango. I mean regardless to how he looked there would have been some good qualities in him. You should not told him he was ugly, i think that was wrong. What if you were like him than???? you had made up your mind that you were never going to be happy when you saw him first for the first time, because of his look, hence you never were happy with him. anyway it is good that you file for a divorce. JUST MOVE ON AND WHEN YOU GET MARRIED NEXT, FOR GODS SAKE LOOK AT THE GUY.

[-Rohit-]

weell he did not hav a heart of gold, n he did not hav a nyc personalityI DO hav a job, y would i ruin my life thinkin ov HIMdid i ASK 4 a prince charmin,no u didnt ask for prince charming.....but you are mostly concern the way the guy looks rather than his character....well as you are seperated....your life shud be better...shit happens that doesnt mean life shit....once again i didnt said your are thinking ov him,i said,now u came out of it......its best that you move on with your life,and forget the past

[sweetgal]

Are you somewhere in india? cause i see these kind of situations in hindi movies. Well anyway goodluck finding a handsome guy.

nah im not 4rm india

[sweetgal]

I am sure that he has his side of the story too, as it takes two to tango. I mean regardless to how he looked there would have been some good qualities in him. You should not told him he was ugly, i think that was wrong. What if you were like him than???? you had made up your mind that you were never going to be happy when you saw him first for the first time, because of his look, hence you never were happy with him. anyway it is good that you file for a divorce. JUST MOVE ON AND WHEN YOU GET MARRIED NEXT, FOR GODS SAKE LOOK AT THE GUY.


i DNT CARE haw ppl look if he kept me happy then i would hav stayd wiv him, He treated me like shit, if sum1 treatz u like shit then u r gna treat dat person like dat 2.

[sweetgal]

no u didnt ask for prince charming.....but you are mostly concern the way the guy looks rather than his character....well as you are seperated....your life shud be better...shit happens that doesnt mean life shit....once again i didnt said your are thinking ov him,i said,now u came out of it......its best that you move on with your life,and forget the past

i didnt care haw he lukd but he didnt hav a nyc attitude towardz me, he acted lyk a kid,

[doe_eyed_beauty]

Hey there
I totally understand what your are saying, I mean looks are part of the complete package and all, but the fact that he was so bad to you, didn't have a good attitude and all, his below average looks only amplified all his bad qualites...do I have that right?? I think thats what you were trying to say. I mean if he treated you with love and you guys were compatible you could've made it work.

What's important is that you got out if before its too late....I've heard of this kind of shit before so many times where girls have to marry guys who are not good enough for them, you said you're not from India then why did your family arrange for you to marry such a lousy guy?? And why did you go along with it? next time please take the decision into your own hands, its your life!

[sweetgal]

Hey there
I totally understand what your are saying, I mean looks are part of the complete package and all, but the fact that he was so bad to you, didn't have a good attitude and all, his below average looks only amplified all his bad qualites...do I have that right?? I think thats what you were trying to say. I mean if he treated you with love and you guys were compatible you could've made it work.

What's important is that you got out if before its too late....I've heard of this kind of shit before so many times where girls have to marry guys who are not good enough for them, you said you're not from India then why did your family arrange for you to marry such a lousy guy?? And why did you go along with it? next time please take the decision into your own hands, its your life!


yeh u do have it rite, i dnt knw, my dad n bro even when 2 hiz house 2 see him, n dey wher sayin dat he is soo nice, u cnt judge ppl jus by lookin at them sum ppl jus put on a fake frnt, if he didnt wanted 2 get married he culd hav sed 2 his stuk up mother dat he doesnt wana get married n dat he is gay, dat idiot just came along n ruined my life, he deserves wat he getz,

[-Rohit-]

welll i think it your folks mistake by selecting him as your husband

anyways i hope you have good times from now on

[doe_eyed_beauty]

There you go....that was your mistake relying on your dad and bro to do all the homework. How many times this story has been repeated...yeah are right you can never tell anything about a person just by lookin at them, too bad you didn't realize this then. In such kind of arrangements I've seen, people will tell more lies than the truth and I can bet his mom knew about him being gay and all but just covered it all up anyways just to get her son married. On the other hand I've seen the girl's family also don't give a shit about who she marries as long as they just get rid of her, your dad and bro if nothing else should have at least considered his looks I'm not saying looks are everything but that just shows they also didn't want to take the time to look for the best guy for you.

I mean you know how it is with asians and Indians and all unfortunately you've got the stigma of now being a divorcee, and I really hate the way asians see girls like this, its not right cuz it wasn't your fault, but you should have taken the decision yourself and not relied on your family, I really doubt your family cares. Sorry if I sounded harsh, but I hate when nice talented girls end up with losers and I think you deserved better, you should go back and hit your ex-mother-in-law for producing such a useless son, just a suggestion.

[xoxaDoRaBlExox]

umm this is pretty much the 21st century and ur saying u didnt see da guy before u married him:???:
well u did da right thing separating from him coz neither of u guys seemed to want to sort out ur differences and living tat way wud have made u both equally unhappy...aneiwaz best of luck wid da future and wid finding ur kinda guy :)

[sweetgal]

There you go....that was your mistake relying on your dad and bro to do all the homework. How many times this story has been repeated...yeah are right you can never tell anything about a person just by lookin at them, too bad you didn't realize this then. In such kind of arrangements I've seen, people will tell more lies than the truth and I can bet his mom knew about him being gay and all but just covered it all up anyways just to get her son married. On the other hand I've seen the girl's family also don't give a shit about who she marries as long as they just get rid of her, your dad and bro if nothing else should have at least considered his looks I'm not saying looks are everything but that just shows they also didn't want to take the time to look for the best guy for you.

I mean you know how it is with asians and Indians and all unfortunately you've got the stigma of now being a divorcee, and I really hate the way asians see girls like this, its not right cuz it wasn't your fault, but you should have taken the decision yourself and not relied on your family, I really doubt your family cares. Sorry if I sounded harsh, but I hate when nice talented girls end up with losers and I think you deserved better, you should go back and hit your ex-mother-in-law for producing such a useless son, just a suggestion.

never mind itz over naw, my family r invited 2 a weddin on june so im gna make sure dat i go, cuz gay twatz motherz gna be ther 2 so im gna laugh on her mashed up face, the way she made me feel im gna make her feel like dat 2,

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

blooody hellllll thats all happend to u oh my God its ***in hurt me and made me reallly angry wat kind ov ur fam is yaar kasme im shocked dat hes gay wt a shame i feeel srry 4 wt happend to u jus be koool be happppppppppyyyyyy keiran jus forget everythng u knw wt i reallly wannna kick his ass so bad he will never find out wt happend to him......any jus be happpy aapka dost aapke saath hai im nw independant nw gt everythng anytym and its nt bullshit.....ur lyf nt sh$t...

[sweetgal]

shani ur sooo sweet, im fine naw dnt worry,

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

shani ur sooo sweet, im fine naw dnt worry,
u have to be good lyk shit thng never happend and theres no Gay TW*T jus dnt thnk abt anythng jus dnt care

[sweetgal]

ok, im over it naw, no point ruinin my life thing abt them,

[daisy]

it looks like to me, that you had made up ur mind, that he was too ugly for u, on the wedding night, that caused a distance between ur relationship with him.. probably thats the reason why u wasnt being urself.. an he could see that, by ur behaviour, which must have looked fake to him.. therefore he must have waited for a while until u get settle into the new environment.. but then it came to a point where he couldnt tolerate his patience.. since a lot of questions were raising in his heads, that had no answers to.. thats why he must have seeked help from his friends, that must have given him some dodgy ideas.. which u made it look true.. an that must be the reasons to why "accusations" started appearing.. at that point, if u really wantd to maintain the relationship, then rather defending urself.. u should have made him realise that his wrong.. an that can be done lovingly rather then showing attitute.. but because u both have seperated.. there's no point of me giving any advice.. apart from.. u know where u went wrong. just make the same mistake isnt repeated.. an may u find the right guy this time
xxx

[doe_eyed_beauty]

What you on about woman??? Sounds to me like you're putting all the blame on her?? Didn't you read what she wrote, his attitude was really bad. It seems to me that guy had no personality and was a pussy and a mama's boy who runs to his mother for everything. As I said earlier, and sweetgal agreed, his bad attitude and the way he treate her only AMPLIFIED his bad looks. Had he shown her respect and love she could have gotten over it. I don't think sweetgal is at fault as I told her earlier the only mistake she made was letting her family arrange her marriage and not looking at the guy first. Lets not forget how guys in such situation and their families lie also! I'm sure he was no angel either. And even if she did want somebody a bit better looking what's wrong with that don't we all want somebody who's at least half decent they don't have to be drop dead gorgeous or anthing but I think there should be some standard. Sorry if I sound a bit superficial its just the truth.

[Ð]

Daisy the girl was forced to marry a guy she didn't know, who could never
love her as his wife since he turned out to be gay..and u blame her for that :confused:

Since she used the word "ugly" so many times in her first post it kinda comes
across like looks is all she cares for, thats shes shallow. (not sayin she is)
But try to look past that and look at the entire situation..your just assuming
stuff here about why he accused her of having an affair etc.

[doe_eyed_beauty]

I just wanted to say what D just said. Yeah that's what I had wanted to say earlier also. Daisy obviously you didn't read sweetgal's first post carefully.

She did mention the world ugly alot of times so it appears that her view was only fixated on his looks which is not the entire truth about how she felt about him. I have come across so called physically good looking people who had a nasty attitude which be default in my opinion made them look not so nice to me. So when sweetgal must have seen his attitude after they got married and how he was treating her, it must have made his most obvious worst quality (in this case his looks) look even more worse. So its just natural for her to slam his looks so many times.

Also he too had a very narrow attitude deep down he knew what he was and he let his own insecurites further aggravate the situation she did say that she did try to give it her best shot but it didn't work out. Let's not forget he hid the fact he was GAY!!!

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

thats why he must have seeked help from his friends

i didnt get dis line wt kind of help frm frends???????????

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

agreee with other 2 posts

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

oh yeah sweetgal its nt a joke i've found a perfect match 4 ur eX he reali wanna meet him

[daisy]

woah.. what happened here?? :confused: i never blamed it on her.. when did i say that.. all i mentioned is what i assumed must have happened.. and assuming fings can either be right or wrong.. coz i heard the one side of story but i havent heard the other side.. coz i always belive that to maintain a relationship, its based on trust and compromise.. now if there is no trust or compromise.. then there is no relationship.. an for no relationship to occur.. it takes two hands to cut a string.. no one can cut a string with with one hand.. fair enough she endure so much mental stress during those 8months.. an thats good for her that she decided to move on.. coz it better to live out of her misery then live in one.. but all i sed is why i thought the guy changed his behaviour randomly.. thats it.. geez.. i never knew giving opinions is crime.. its not like i was criticising her.. i was just saying it.. coz thats wht some guys are like.. when they find that thre partner acts differently from ususal.. first thing that comes in there mind is cheating (if they have a traditional thinking or if they r an obsessive person).. but am happy that she moved on.. coz atlist it shows that asian women''s can stand up for there rights.. an that they dont have to hide under ther scarfs all the time.. :-\"
xxx

[sweetgal]

it looks like to me, that you had made up ur mind, that he was too ugly for u, on the wedding night, that caused a distance between ur relationship with him.. probably thats the reason why u wasnt being urself.. an he could see that, by ur behaviour, which must have looked fake to him.. therefore he must have waited for a while until u get settle into the new environment.. but then it came to a point where he couldnt tolerate his patience.. since a lot of questions were raising in his heads, that had no answers to.. thats why he must have seeked help from his friends, that must have given him some dodgy ideas.. which u made it look true.. an that must be the reasons to why "accusations" started appearing.. at that point, if u really wantd to maintain the relationship, then rather defending urself.. u should have made him realise that his wrong.. an that can be done lovingly rather then showing attitute.. but because u both have seperated.. there's no point of me giving any advice.. apart from.. u know where u went wrong. just make the same mistake isnt repeated.. an may u find the right guy this time
xxx

hav u 4got 2 read da bit dat he was gay,

[doe_eyed_beauty]

I just think daisy didn't know how to word what she was trying to say properly. Also she really didn't read your first post carefully.

Hey daisy, you were talking about "his friends" go back and read what sweetgal wrote. She said when she got married HER friends were telling her she was too good for him, NOT HIS FRIENDS. He was going and complaining to his mom like a little kid. That just shows how much of a man he really was, he was gay got that, he was the one who covered it up and lied not her. I think sweetgal is right, maybe he was so bad and ugly that he couldn't get any girl so he ended up becoming gay. I guess no girl wanted him.

Daisy next time read the posts carefully and be clear about what your saying.

[daisy]

ur right.. i do have trouble writing sentences.. which u must have noticed by now.. an if ur sayin that the guy is gay.. then ok his gay.. and u r right that, if a man can not stand up for his self and runs to his mother for everything.. then yeah.. i wud call that guy a 'mummy' boy',(or maybe a pus :rolleyes: ) but then again.. i suppose its good that u decided to make ur own decision.. atleast u can find the perfect partneer for urself.. since u r so young.. an u got a lot of life ahead of u.. so y worry about whats happened in the past.. just focus on what u should be focussing in life.. an forget bout those ppl.. they are not worth, wastin ur time
xxx

[sweetgal]

oh yeah sweetgal its nt a joke i've found a perfect match 4 ur eX he reali wanna meet him

lolz relly, dat guy may probly hav a hart attak by lukin at him,


i new it shani there was sumthin strange abt him, thnk god i left him earlier, wat if i got pregnat i would hav been so ashamed 2 show my face 2 ny1.

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

well he dsnt bother abt face

[sweetgal]

who doznt????????????????

[aalka*]

i DNT CARE haw ppl look if he kept me happy then i would hav stayd wiv him, He treated me like shit, if sum1 treatz u like shit then u r gna treat dat person like dat 2.


Listen, its sounds like your problem was that you had already made up your that he wasnt ood looking. and if you didnt care what people thought, than why the hell did you even bother posting your story on here. You are talking about emotions not just your and his but your and his families too, it isnt always about treating people the same away as they are treating you.

[sweetgal]

haw many tymz i dnt care haw ppl luk i jus rote dat cuz i was pissed off, Well i dnt knw ny1 in here i dnt care wat they say, n i can post my story where ever i want.

[CHULBUL PANDEY]

i mean the gay guy i knw :) he dsnt bother abt how he lukks

[lady-e]

i got married when i was 21 yrz old, i did not even see da guy, u nw wid us asians u get married 2 sum1 u dnt even love, so when i first saw him i thiught wat da hell hav i done he was so ugly n lookd old , i culdnt do nythin cuz when i saw him it was on da weddin day, i jus wana cry sooo bad, my frenz kept on sayin dat u r sooo gud 4 him he lukz tooo old n ur tooo pretty 4 him but wat cculd i do....,
when we got married i felt sick when he use 2 touch me i was sooo unhappy i use 2 get bored talkin 2 him n i had nuthin in common wid him but i prentended to b happy,for first few wkz he was ok den he started to accuse me of thingz 2 his mum, he kept on sayin dat she has a boyfriend n she talkz 2 him on her fone every nite i sed 2 him if i did wuld i got married 2 a ugly b...... lyk u , i jus wanted 2 slap him sooo bad, he stopped talkin 2 me weneva he use 2 talk 2 me he alwayz use 2 talk abt his friendz i stayd wid him for 8 mnthz den i culdnt take it ny more den i left him,i recently heard dat he is gay, nn got beaten up by sum1, those guyz must b blind fuckin arnd wid da ugly twat like him,,,,,


Hmm sounds like you've had it real bad.. sorry too hear that.. I agree with what everyone else has said that it's not all about looks, but like you said he treated you really bad which is unacceptable so i can understand where your coming from. I think it was best you left him, cos there's no point carrying on with something if there's no future and your not happy.
Wish you all the luck, and don't worry I'm sure there's gonna be something extremely good in store for you.

[frandavis]

Life is not shit , it's like to war with which we have to fight.