whats going through his head?

[*PaRi*]

hello everyone :D



so as you all know from my previous threads in this section. my love life is rushing toward the toilet at fulll speed. ergh.

& yet again, im dealing with another situation.

basically, since about the end of march me and this guy have been talking and around mid april we had "officially" started dating. hes a pretty cool guy. cute, a dj, funny, etc.(we've known each other for about a year now) so whats my problem?



----> when we were first "talking" we would constantly text or call each other. it was new & exciting and it was the best feeling ever.

but for a while now we've talk less and less. its literally to the point where if i dont call him or text him in a day, he wouldnt either. he replies late, doesnt call me too often. maybe once every couple days. we hang out quite a bit and when hes with my we'll kiss and hold hands but i feel like he guards himself from showing his emotions. and i dont wanna push him and make him feel that he needs to be open with me about his whole life and allll but hes well aware of the fact tht im always there for him no matter what.

i just want to know from a guys point of view, what do you guys think his prblm is?
is he too busy with college, is he not into me anymore? and my ex keeps telling me hes flirting with other females but he could just be saying that to mess with my head becoz he knows that stuff gets to me. i honestly, like i dont WANT to give up on him and i wanna stick it through but i also feel like its not worth my time anymore. like i cant just call him and break up with him with my excuse being " you neglect me its over" coz that makes me look dependent on him too much, like weakwise.

females, what would you do?
males, whats going through his head?

[-Rohit-]

well every guy thinks in different way

so u need to just express your feelings and the emotions to him,, that u miss him alot and miss those great days

it takes two to tangle,so just talk with him and clear the things which are in your mind

[*PaRi*]

:-#well every guy thinks in different way

so u need to just express your feelings and the emotions to him,, that u miss him alot and miss those great days

it takes two to tangle,so just talk with him and clear the things which are in your mind


you're right. & thats what i did. i called him & i feel so bad. i think i really hurt his feelings. he thought i was trying to break it offf. & im not trying to do that. all im trying to do is understand him. i told him how i felt and he got so quiet. then his voice cracked and said that he couldnt believe i would think he didnt care. :( i feel so bad. i apologized over & over and i kept assuring him that i wasnt going to break his heart out of nowhere. i just want him to express himself & he got irritated and said he didnt want to talk to me and that he would call later. i feel like such a moron. i wish i wasnt so damn sensitive. :-#

[-Rohit-]

well give the bloke some time to think abt it,

i feel he shud be more open with you,so there wont be any misunderstanding btw you and him

all you can do is just wait,have some patience,just put this thing aside for now and try to concentrate on your other activities ,studies,spending time with your folks

i hope he calls you back ,just chill it

[lady-e]

I am extremely late too comment on this because I'm not sure whether the issue has been resolved or not but for starters I agree with Rohit that every guy is different.

Every person has their own individual thinking, and express themselves differently so what another guy may do may be misinterpreted for something it isn't.

Like you said at first you used to be talking constantly, thats the deal with most people, (not everyone) but because its new and fresh its all exciting, and the effort needs to be put in, but once your together I guess due to reasons it may decrease over time, but if you care about him and think it can get somewhere then the best thing to do is talk to him about how you feel, and the best thing to do is confront the situation first and then see from there..

Good luck :)

[jackson86]

Hi..pari i think you should talk with him and express that you are alwys there for him..may be there is some problem in his family..

[•Amrita•]

If you really feel he's not the same guy. Give him some space and let him come to you.
Don't bother running after him or harassing him with a million calls b/c it's not gonna get him to tell you the truth any faster.

Sometimes people do honestly need space, so give him the benefit of the doubt.
Give him space and stop calling him or texting him , let him do it for a change.
You guys are equal partners in this r/s so it has to work both ways. Just let him come to you, b/c if you are that important to him in his life, he won't let you go far.

[A®M§-HØU§E]

if ur ex has been saying stuff to u abt him, maybe hes been doin the same to this guy, goin up to him an talkin sh!t abt u, sayin ur flirtin wid other guys? its a possibility of course he has a reason to do it since hes ur ex lol

but u need to ask ur current bf if anythin is wrong, and just be clear abt wat ur ex has been sayin abt him, just talk to him properly and find out watever is behind the way hes actin, it seems like he was in love wid u but now seems like he wants to distance himself from u, if u havent done anythin to make dat happen, den try and find out if someone else has been sayin somethin which might make him want to distance himself.